Hanna Rosin Takes Reddit’s Questions in an AMA

Real-time discussions with Slate writers.
Jan. 29 2013 6:23 PM

Hanna Rosin vs. the Angry Dudebros

The End of Men author takes Reddit’s questions.

Hanna Rosin, 2012

Photograph by Nina Subin

DoubleX co-founder and The End of Men author Hanna Rosin took to Reddit to answer reader questions and confront an ambush of angry dudebros on Wednesday. This transcript has been edited for clarity.

Hanna Rosin Hanna Rosin

Hanna Rosin is the founder of DoubleX and a writer for the Atlantic. She is also the author of The End of Men. Follow her on Twitter.

IChangeTenses: Thanks for doing this AMA. I have a long list of questions:

1) What inspired you to investigate "the end of men?"

Advertisement

2) What do you think should be done to help men?

3) What are your thoughts on the men’s rights movement and feminism?

Hanna Rosin: So many subquestions here! I think the general gist is, why, if women are doing so well, aren't we reaching out and helping men? I think the answer is that we as a society think that's weird. We have a hard time thinking of men as people who need help. So, for example, in my education chapter, I write about the open secret among admissions officers at private colleges that men get affirmative action, but also about how we are so squeamish about acknowledging that. So there are a ton of things we could do to help men, but maybe men have to band together and advocate for some of those things, and not solely in the context of divorce and the law.

_______________________

NUMBERS2357: What do you think can/should be done to eliminate the gender gap in higher education?

Related, Obama recently made some comments about applying Title IX to STEM (science, technology, engineering, and mathematics) fields ... do you think this is a good idea, and if so, what do you hope to see the administration do?

Hanna Rosin: I'm fine with targeted affirmative action. You can fine tune affirmative action programs to pull in different kinds of people to different fields where they are underrepresented—so, men to teaching, women to engineering. Seems OK to me.

_______________________

OuiCrudites: In "Boys on the Side" you speak positively of hookup culture as a sign of female empowerment. However, the first generation of women to embrace hookup culture in their late teens and early 20s, are now in their late 20s and early 30s. Many of them are regretful, desirous of a long-term commitment, and feel there are sparse few good options of available men left on the market. Are you concerned that enthusiastic promotion of hookup culture will lead to more regretful and lonely women?

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us today.

Hanna Rosin: I think it's really easy to tune into the heartbreak of a 35-year-old woman or man for whom a good relationship has been elusive. I think no matter what we say we all want to love and be loved. But if you think of the hookup culture as something that happens in college the fact is most college graduates end up married and in stable and relatively happy marriages. So I don’t think there is much evidence that hookup culture leads to loneliness. One other thing: I don't "endorse" it. I just get tired of hearing how it destroys women. Joan Didion once complained about certain strains of the feminist movement perpetuating a vision of women as “creatures too ‘tender’ for the abrasiveness of daily life, too fragile for the streets ... too ‘sensitive’ for the difficulties and ambiguities of adult life.”

So, yes, there is heartbreak but there is also a lot women gain from their independence. _______________________

Tossnear: Hanna, why is it that more than 90 percent of STEM college students are male?

You make a big deal about the amount of women pursuing post-secondary education in your article “The End of Men,” but you don't address this issue. The discrepancies between a STEM degree and, let's say, a women's studies degree, are huge.

Thanks!

Hanna Rosin: Excellent point, but I don’t think it’s a choice between STEM or feminist studies. The good news for men is STEM fields are hugely important, and men dominate those fields. When I wrote about the men in Alabama, a few of them remade themselves as networks analysts, which is a great job and doesn’t violate anyone's sense of manliness. So that's all good. But for women the dominant fields include: accounting, medicine, law, health care.

_______________________

TODAY IN SLATE

Politics

Smash and Grab

Will competitive Senate contests in Kansas and South Dakota lead to more late-breaking races in future elections?

I Am 25. I Don’t Work at Facebook. My Doctors Want Me to Freeze My Eggs.

The XX Factor
Oct. 20 2014 6:17 PM I Am 25. I Don’t Work at Facebook. My Doctors Want Me to Freeze My Eggs.

Republicans Want the Government to Listen to the American Public on Ebola. That’s a Horrible Idea.

The Most Ingenious Teaching Device Ever Invented

Tom Hanks Has a Short Story in the New Yorker. It’s Not Good.

Brow Beat

Marvel’s Civil War Is a Far-Right Paranoid Fantasy

It’s also a mess. Can the movies do better?

Watching Netflix in Bed. Hanging Bananas. Is There Anything These Hooks Can’t Solve?

The Procedural Rule That Could Prevent Gay Marriage From Reaching SCOTUS Again

  News & Politics
Politics
Oct. 20 2014 8:14 PM You Should Be Optimistic About Ebola Don’t panic. Here are all the signs that the U.S. is containing the disease.
  Business
Moneybox
Oct. 20 2014 7:23 PM Chipotle’s Magical Burrito Empire Keeps Growing, Might Be Slowing
  Life
Outward
Oct. 20 2014 3:16 PM The Catholic Church Is Changing, and Celibate Gays Are Leading the Way
  Double X
The XX Factor
Oct. 20 2014 6:17 PM I Am 25. I Don't Work at Facebook. My Doctors Want Me to Freeze My Eggs.
  Slate Plus
Tv Club
Oct. 20 2014 7:15 AM The Slate Doctor Who Podcast: Episode 9 A spoiler-filled discussion of "Flatline."
  Arts
Brow Beat
Oct. 20 2014 9:13 PM The Smart, Talented, and Utterly Hilarious Leslie Jones Is SNL’s Newest Cast Member
  Technology
Future Tense
Oct. 20 2014 4:59 PM Canadian Town Cancels Outdoor Halloween Because Polar Bears
  Health & Science
Medical Examiner
Oct. 20 2014 11:46 AM Is Anybody Watching My Do-Gooding? The difference between being a hero and being an altruist.
  Sports
Sports Nut
Oct. 20 2014 5:09 PM Keepaway, on Three. Ready—Break! On his record-breaking touchdown pass, Peyton Manning couldn’t even leave the celebration to chance.