Fast-forward to this semester: I'm starting to panic. Tina recently emailed one of my professors to ask that he let her into the class because she couldn't "bear not to see [me] every day" (the professor luckily declined). She shows up wherever I'm at, texts me at all hours, and is constantly begging me to hang out. I've gone out with her a couple of times to satisfy her, but I'm just too weirded out to properly enjoy myself! To top it all off, I was sitting in the library studying and she came by and just happened to be wearing an identical outfit to one I was wearing last week! And why did she seek me out in the library? To inform me that she is looking for an apartment either in my complex or close to mine so we can ride the shuttle together every day. Am I just being paranoid, or is this gal really crazy? Advice appreciated.
Am I Being Stalked?
You’re probably too young to remember the early-‘90s psychological thriller, Single White Female, but I admit I’m getting flashbacks. Back then, it was impossible to send 47 texts in one evening, let alone one text. But hearing that Tina showed up in your exact outfit, I couldn’t help but think of Jennifer Jason Leigh appearing on the metal staircase of her chic minimalist hair salon sporting the same red crop-top haircut and wearing the same nipped-waist black suit jacket as Bridget Fonda. Luckily, life doesn’t always play out like a Hollywood movie. (If it did, I’d suggest you go immediately to the nearest police station.) Which is why I suggest that, as a first step, you attempt honesty. Tell Tina that she’s crowding you and to please give you some space. You have other friends, you don’t belong to her exclusively, and she shouldn’t move near you thinking that you’ll always be together. If that fails, you’ll have to take more extreme measures.
All this said, you have to hand the girl a certain flair for social media. Whoever thought of photographing one’s own unanswered text, then uploading it to Facebook for all the world to see and with further obsessive commentary intended to apply pressure on the receiver? The move speaks both to Tina’s resolve in meeting goals and to her ability to think outside -the-box in the face of adversity. Both qualities should stand Tina well in grad school. Though, of course, for your sake, I hope she fails miserably, drops out, and moves to Tasmania. Or, at least, France.
Friend or Foe