Michele and Marcus Bachmann's "ex-gay" friend Janet Boynes helps people who want to "leave the homosexual lifestyle."

Michele and Marcus Bachmann's "ex-gay" friend Janet Boynes helps people who want to "leave the homosexual lifestyle."

Michele and Marcus Bachmann's "ex-gay" friend Janet Boynes helps people who want to "leave the homosexual lifestyle."

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July 20 2011 6:12 PM

Meet the Bachmanns' "Ex-Lesbian" Friend

Janet Boynes discusses her 14 "miserable" years as a lesbian and her ministry to those who want to "leave the homosexual lifestyle."

It has been a while since presidential aspirant Michele Bachmann has described homosexuality as "personal bondage" or remarked that the word "gay" is "part of Satan." Now that she is running for the Republican nomination, she has been taking a slightly more neutral line when questioned about homosexuality. Asked last month whether she thinks that one's sexuality is a choice, she had this to say: "I am running for the presidency of the United States. I am not running to be anyone's judge." Meanwhile, the work of her therapist husband, Marcus, who is accused of offering controversial "reparative" therapy to gay patients at the Bachmanns' Christian clinic, has emerged as a possible political liability. The Bachmann campaign is playing down accusations by two gay men against the Lake Elmo, Minn., counseling center, which is helmed by Marcus and co-owned by Michele, saying counselors there merely follow the wishes of patients.

If the Bachmanns still believe that being gay is a sinful lifestyle from which it's possible to be delivered, they aren't about to explain their thinking right now. In the past, however, they have pointed to the testimony of one particular friend as proof of their belief that it is possible to leave the gay "lifestyle." This friend is devoting her life to the proposition that homosexuality is not only destructive but, in some sense, contagious, and her beliefs may provide some useful context for the Bachmanns' past comments. Her name is Janet Boynes, and she calls herself an ex-lesbian.

Janet Boynes.

"You can change from gay to straight—I'm a living example of that," Boynes, 53, told me. Having renounced lesbianism 13 years ago, she now runs a Maple Grove, Minn. organization called Janet Boynes Ministries that proclaims to minister to those who don't want to be gay anymore. Over the course of our conversation, Boynes likened homosexuality to drug addiction and pointed to a variety of causes for it, from domineering mothers to hanging around too much with gay people. She voiced her fear that half the nation's families might one day be helmed by same-sex couples.

Although Boynes would not talk to me about the Bachmanns, she has known them for years. On her website, she boasts an old endorsement from the then-state senator ("Janet's life is a powerful testimony of the changes that Christ can bring"). In 2005, Marcus Bachmann gave a talk called "The Truth to the Homosexual Lifestyle" at the Minnesota Pastors' Summit, and, according to attendee Curt Prins, Boynes was part of the presentation. Prins, a gay tech marketer who attended the conference to gather intelligence on "the other side," recalls Boynes, a long-haired woman with striking features, putting up a "before" photo of herself as a lesbian, with short hair and mannish clothes. The contrast prompted gasps and laughter from the audience. More recently, in her 2008 memoir, Called Out: A Former Lesbian's Discovery of Freedom, Boynes thanked "Marcus and Michele," saying "you never left my side when things got tough." For his part, Marcus Bachmann has since been selling the book in the lobby of his clinic alongside a typed placard saying "Janet is a friend," according to this photograph taken by an undercover gay activist.

Janet Boynes' book "Called Out."

"I was not born homosexual," Boynes writes in her memoir. "I made a decision." In her telling, a slew of environmental factors tempted her to make that decision, the way a weakened immune system might make the body prone to infection. Boynes writes that she was born into poverty in Norristown, Pa., one of seven half-siblings by multiple fathers. Her mother was abusive and unloving. Her father was absent. A stepfather molested her. She was tough and tomboyish and liked sports, and people teased her that she might be gay. "Then you start thinking, 'Well, maybe I am gay,' " Boynes told me. She grew up attracted to both men and women, she writes, and in her 20s left her fiancé for a woman, beginning 14 years of lesbianism.

Boynes's life as a gay woman was chaotic; she cheated on her girlfriends and was cheated on. For awhile, she was addicted to—and sold—cocaine. But from time to time, she writes, her churchgoing childhood would kick in, and she would think of God and recognize that she was on a sinful path. At last, she writes, in 1998, a chance encounter with a Christian woman in a parking lot prompted her to renounce her lesbian ways.

As Boynes describes it, her path away from homosexuality sounds something like a 12-step program, with prayer as its centerpiece. She writes about how she fought temptation by removing herself from situations that tempted her. She asked her girlfriend and her girlfriend's daughter to move out of her house. She joined a Christian women's group to which she vowed to report her homosexual urges. And she moved in for more than a year with a Christian family that not only modeled heterosexual family life for her but also kept track of her phone calls to make sure she wasn't talking to her ex-girlfriend. Today, she says she wants to marry a man and is just waiting for the right one to come along.