How to Do It

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question for the column? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!

My Boyfriend Says His Sexual Fantasies Are Too “Weird” to Try With Me

Jessica Stoya

My Boyfriend Is Craving a Special Sex “Trick.” I Cannot, for the Life of Me, Figure It Out.

Rich Juzwiak
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only

My Wife Just Made a Jaw-Dropping Confession. She Says It Changes Nothing. For Me, It Changes Everything.

Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak

I Thought I Understood My Husband’s Sex Drive. And Then I Peeked at His Browser History.

Rich Juzwiak
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only

My Husband Suddenly Developed a Very Strange Sleep Habit. It’s Forever Changed Our Sex Life.

Jessica Stoya

Recently in How to Do It

Showing 21–40 of 1,207
My Wife Insists She’s Totally Vanilla in Bed. She Lies!
Rich Juzwiak
May 05, 2024 12:00 PM
Women Have Always Pointed Out My “Gift” Downstairs. Now I Know How It Can All Go Wrong.
Girthmaster
May 03, 2024 12:00 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only My Boyfriend Is Extremely Weird About Showers. Now It’s Grown Out of Control.
Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak
May 02, 2024 3:08 PM
I Give Off “Nice Midwestern Girl” Energy. But I Want to Tap Into My… Darker Side.
Jessica Stoya
May 01, 2024 3:15 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only I’m Trying to Boost My Confidence in Bed. It’s Completely Backfiring.
Jessica Stoya
April 30, 2024 3:46 PM
I’m Crushing on a Hot Dad in My Baby’s Swim Class. It’s Having a Strange Effect on My Marriage.
Rich Juzwiak
April 28, 2024 12:00 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only I Spent a Year Having a Sexual Awakening. My Dating Life Hasn’t Caught Up.
Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak
April 25, 2024 2:54 PM
I Met a Hot, Famous Actor at a Film Festival. Years Later, I’m Fantasizing About Him Again.
Rich Juzwiak
April 24, 2024 3:00 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only I’m Tricking My Boyfriend Into Having Sex With Me. And It’s Working.
Jessica Stoya
April 23, 2024 12:39 PM
I Just Developed a Sexual Superpower. Please, God, Make It Go Away.
Rich Juzwiak
April 21, 2024 11:00 AM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only My Girlfriend’s Terrible Illness Led Me to a Gruesome Discovery About My Own Desires
Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak
April 18, 2024 4:24 PM
I Identify as a Pillow Princess. Is That Really So Bad?
Jessica Stoya
April 17, 2024 3:38 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only My Husband Has Weird “Proof” That I Don’t Enjoy Our Sex Life Anymore. Huh?
Jessica Stoya
April 16, 2024 3:19 PM
I’m Dying to Have a Threesome With Two Men. Why Does Every Attempt Fall Apart in the Same Way?
Rich Juzwiak
April 14, 2024 12:00 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only I Married the Unattainable Womanizer. Now I’m Learning My Lesson the Hard Way.
Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak
April 11, 2024 3:23 PM
I Walked Into the Bedroom Wearing Men’s Lingerie. My Wife’s Reaction Was Absurd.
Rich Juzwiak
April 10, 2024 2:36 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only My Mystery Vaginal Ailment Has Changed My Life
Jessica Stoya
April 09, 2024 12:22 PM
Some Men Would Kill for the Sexual Problem I’m Having. It Involves My Wife.
Rich Juzwiak
April 07, 2024 12:00 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only I Have a Long List of Rules for Hooking Up. It Makes Me Feel Like a Freak.
Jessica Stoya
April 05, 2024 12:00 PM
This Content is Available for Slate Plus members only My Condom Slipped Off During a Hookup. Her Reaction Only Got Worse in the Days That Followed.
Jessica Stoya and Rich Juzwiak
April 04, 2024 4:42 PM